March 15, 2020by admin0

As soon as her alarm goes off in the morning, Ipshita picks up her phone and starts scrolling Instagram. This is her everyday morning ritual. Like all other millennials/zillennials, she even carries the phone inside the washroom. One of her friends is partying in Paris, someone else is hiking in the hills of Himachal. Other has posted about the turquoise seas in Seychelles, while others are making the most of monsoons. As she makes her way to the office, she is filled with deep sadness – at her so-called non-happening life.

Sadly, this is not just a lone incident. Today, most of the youth are battling depression and self-esteem issues, thanks to the multiple pressures put forth by social media. There is no denying that social media has made the world more connected and aware, than ever before. Looking for a job is easier, thanks to sites like LinkedIn and Eight. Twitter lets you stay updated on the latest happenings around the world. With Facebook and Instagram, you can always stay connected to your school/college friends, like you never left. Students have easy, free access to resources online to help them learn. The benefits are many, but the negatives can’t be ignored. Let’s take a look at the ugly truth.

Intense pressure to “look cool”

Rohan has posted a new profile picture on Facebook. It has been more than three hours and he has got only 34 likes. He can’t stop refreshing the page. All of his friends get more than 100 likes on their pictures. He begins to doubts his looks, wondering if he is ‘ugly’. He wonders if he is not popular enough or if he has enough friends. He has based his entire self-esteem on this one picture and whether he will make the mark.

All youth today face severe pressure to maintain a cool social media life. If they are doing something fun on weekends, are they partying on Fridays, do they have nice jobs, do they have enough followers on Instagram and much more. This is affecting their mental health and well-being.

Antidote: What is required here is a sense of self-security and the awareness that the strive really is to be better than what we were yesterday, and not better than others in our circle.

Vulnerable to crime

Jyoti, a 17-year-old student, is in love. She warmly tells her best friends about her first boyfriend, an 18-year-old college student who sends her chocolate and gifts. When asked where she met him, her answer is Facebook. She has not seen him yet, but they are planning to meet up soon. The date and location are set. But what she does not know is that on the other side of the monitor is a 45-year-old man, with a malicious plan up his sleeve. Sexual predators often use social media to find, stalk, and assault victims.

Security attacks such as hacking, identity theft, phishing scams, and viruses are common online. At least 68% of users share their birthday, 63% share the name of their school, 18% share their phone number: information that can be used in identity theft. When you post about your vacation, robbers use that information to break into your homes. 

Antidote: While sometimes it is necessary to share some unassuming details; at the same time to keep ourselves safe guarded from crime of any kind, one needs to develop our internal compass or intuition that warns us of dangers beforehand.   

Cyber bullying and depression

Anu has recently developed a fear of going to school. She makes up headaches, stomach aches, etc. just to stay away. What her parents don’t know is that she is being bullied – on social media and at school. Someone has posted an embarrassing video of her on YouTube, and she is at the receiving end of all the spiteful jokes in class. However, this does not end when school ends, as they also make fun of her on Facebook. They have made a page dedicated to bashing her up. Last night, Anu Googled ‘Easy ways to end your life’.

According to research, children who are bullied online are at higher risk for depression, low self-esteem, eating disorders, and are more prone to feeling isolated and disconnected (especially youth with disabilities).

Antidote: Emotional Intelligence & Assertiveness is crucial in dealing with situations like these. Essential Life Skills are exactly what the name suggests – skills that are essential to not only go through, but also grow through life.

Waste of time

Suchint’s board exams are less than a month away, but he is not prepared. The reason is his social media addiction. He starts studying, but the temptation to check his social media account takes over. And soon he is idling away – watching the same stories and videos over and over again. Learning time management while using social media is a crucial skill to have for today’s youth.

Antidote: Addictions of any kind is a killer – be it a food, cigarette, OCDs or social media. Recognise the addiction, Remove the cause and Reboot the self for a fresh start.

Spreading false news

WhatsApp news is no longer a new concept. From political news to private affairs, rumours are easy to spread with social media. Due to the rise of fake news, even social media companies had to seriously consider putting in some measures. The youth need to learn to not spread misinformation through social media channels.

Antidote: Setting meaningful goals and action plans takes one away from mindless distractions & wasteful deeds. Making use of time & resources in an informed way leads to sure success for self.

What can I do now?

Let’s face it, Social Media is here to stay. The amount of information it brings to the fingertips of the youth comes with equal chances of being bullied and harassed. It is futile trying to ask anyone to avoid or ignore it. We can’t let it dictate our lives either. That is certainly disastrous. What’s required is to equip ourselves to use it prudently & to our advantage.

A bit of guidance is all it takes to get the best out of it. And if already addicted there is help available too. NLP, Hynotherapy, Time Management are powerful tools that help an individual break the chains of Social Media addiction. We at Renaé are your well-wishers that you can add to your friend list and when you feel fully supported & changed you can like & share us too!


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