BlogEssential Skills CoachingImage Management IS IT DIFFICULT FOR YOUR CHILD TO MAKE FRIENDS?

March 15, 2020by admin0

Rita* was worried. In the last PTA meeting, her son Akash’s class teacher expressed concern over his inability to make friends. She was informed that he eats his lunch alone and does not mix with any of his classmates. As he is a very happy child at home, Rita had no idea about this. This is a cause of worry for many parents.

Research shows making friends in school is as essential as doing well in studies or participating in co-curricular activities. Friends enrich our lives, boost our self-esteem, and provide moral support during difficult times. According to studies, children who are loners tend to be less confident, cheerless and more prone to fall into depression. For certain children, social skills don’t come naturally. While some don’t have any trouble initiating a conversation, other kids need a nudge to open up. If your child doesn’t appear to make friends like other kids the same age, he or she may need some coaching and practice time on simple social skills.

Here are some tips to help you understand the situation and give your child a much-needed boost of confidence in approaching social situations.

Watch your child

Take time out of your schedule to watch your children interact with their peer. Understand if they have a problem with large groups or do they face anxiety even in small groups, do they find it difficult to initiate and maintain conversations, or do they avoid interacting with anyone altogether. This will then help you decide your focus areas, and which skills they need to build.

Address the problem

Do not avoid the problem and assume that they will grow out of the awkwardness. It is easier for a child to get out of their comfort zone. But it gets more difficult as they grow older. So start young and ease them into new experiences.

Create an ideal environment at home

Children learn by example – make sure you strike a friendly conversation with your neighbours, watchman, the check-out person at a grocery store, and vegetable vendors. Your child will learn from every interaction on how to initiate or join into a conversation. Have heart-to-heart sessions where you help them find out topics they are passionate about and can work as conversation starters. Ensure that you don’t compare them with their siblings, and reward and praise them when they start opening up. And best of all, watch movies on friendship-building that will help them understand the importance of making friends.

Talk to their teachers

Take help of their teachers and get them to set playdates with like-minded peers. As they spend a significant amount of time with your kids, they will be able to signal out potential friends.

Take professional help

You can also consult a counsellor who can help your child step out of their comfort zone. They will help your kid’s development in the long run by getting to the root of their anxiety and fears.

Develop with Renaé

Trust Renaé to help your child create wonderful relationships with themselves, and everyone around.

The ‘SleepTalk Process’ which is more focussed for kids between the age of 0-13 years, builds healthy self-esteem and confidence in them, improving their social behaviours considerably.

The teenagers, on the other hand, benefit from the ‘Essential Skills Coaching’ program, where they learn to transform every interaction into valuable engagements and experiences, ultimately building successful relationships – personally, socially & professionally.  An ‘Essential Skills Coach’ will help you identify the areas that need improvement, set aside time to learn, choose the correct learning resource and finally apply the learnings in real life. Our programme will help you create the life you deserve.

Let’s take the first step towards making some friends!


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